29 July 2010

Dear Lil L

The highlight of my day has to be that look on your face when you see me walking through the nursery school door to collect you in the afternoon. Nothing in the world could mean more to me than the look of excitement, happiness and most of all, love that beams from your little face.

I love you always. You are my light and my baby girl forever.

Mom.

Achievement #2

We made it through 6 months of colic and once out the other side- I realised it wasn't that bad after all!

The pregnancy was easy and so was the birth, so it was a big surprise to have a "fussy" and "miserable" baby. Lil L cried and cried and cried and wouldn't sleep.

Those first few weeks were so hard. They're a bit of a blur now. Although I never doubted that we'd come out ok- I thought it would go on for ever at the time.

And here we are... none the worse for the experience. If anything it taught us all patience, understanding and a "never give up" attitude.

Life isn't perfect and it will throw curve balls every so often, but only because we're strong. Because we're fighters and because we'll be ok in the end. That's how fairy tales are meant to be.

"Life itself is the most wonderful fairy tale.".... Hans Christian Andersen

Fact #1

There is no such thing as a perfect mother. There is no such thing as a perfect parent. All our children ask of us is to be good enough.

"The "good-enough mother" is a mother whose conscious and unconscious physical and emotional attunement to her baby adapts to her baby appropriately at differing stages of infancy, thus allowing an optimal environment for the healthy establishment of a separate being, eventually capable of mature object-relations."

Realisation #3

This is my life, my child and no one can tell me what to do or how to "be a good mother".

I am my child's only mother and I am the best mother for her. I love her unconditionally, as she loves me.

We have a bond that is unbreakable. Once connected in body, we will always be connected in spirit.